Trauma may have disconnected you from your desires, your pleasure, and your power.
It may have told you that you don't deserve to speak up for what you want, get what you desire, or to feel good in your body. It may have told you that it's scary to feel and to avoid doing so at any cost!⠀
But what happens when you learn how to find safety and center pleasure in your body?⠀
You begin to feel -- authentically, deeply, and mindfully.
"I want to offer that the same practices we use for getting naked in the realm of sex and intimacy -- the unveiling of skin -- can teach us to bring our unapologetic selves into any space where we need to get naked."
From Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good by adrienne maree brown
Over the years, I've seen many ways that trauma interrupts our sexual journey. And if you are here, I know that you can relate. Maybe you can even add to the content on the chart.
You may struggle with sex after trauma because although you are addressing the trauma, your sexual self is being left out of your healing work. Many people just don't know that trauma can affect their sexual being. ⠀
You might notice changes in desire, feel less present, have bodily responses that bother you, all without knowing trauma itself was behind it. Why? Because we are often told that experiencing sexual trauma will lead us to be either sex averse or an out-of-control sexual nymph. And if you experienced other types of trauma, you may be even more at a loss.
But there is no binary in being a trauma survivor.
So, what if I told you that you can learn how to change the way that pie chart looks? What would you want to replace the pie slices with if the title read, "How healing trauma impacted my sexuality"?⠀
Don’t worry if you don't have a response right now. Just know that you can change that narrative. You can get reconnected with your body, your sensuality, and your sexuality.
You are a spectrum and your healing process should be too.
This space is especially for you if you're ready to. . .
You deserve pleasure, in all the ways you can imagine.
Schedule time just for you! Set your intentions and bring specific questions you'd like to explore. You'll leave with action steps and I'll follow-up with additional resources as needed.
This virtual classroom will be held every other week, allowing you time to not only process what was discussed but to implement new information and skills.
In addition to the worksheets for the course, dive into an intentionally curated list of resources for continued learning, deeper reflection, and growth.
You'll have the option to join a private online community for furthering discussion, sharing resources, and providing support throughout the duration of this course.
What you should know:
Schedule: Classes begin on March 8, 2022. We'll meet every 2 weeks from 430pm to 630 pm CST.
Office hours: Schedule times that work best for you. Booking calendar will be provided in 2022.
Finally, the sex education you need to have the sex you want.
I've always said that trauma is a thief. And for those of us who have survived it, we may be all too familiar with the things it steals -- our breath, our movement, our presence, our senses. It's no surprise then that trauma survivors tell me that their sexual experiences are not what they want and need them to be. I created this class series to hold space for you to put down all you've been carrying. Shame, judgment, information gaps, pain, tension, all of it. And, together, we will learn tools, build skills, and explore resources to get back what trauma took from you.